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The Story of How We Adopted Gianna

IMG_4239 As I mentioned previously, we've been on the hunt for a dog.

I've probably been in the market for a dog since we lost Maxamillion to Nina's thong. Wherever I've lived since graduating college - Bellingham, Seattle, Tacoma - the local humane society has been on my short list of frequently visited websites.

That's why I didn't think too seriously about getting a dog this past Saturday when we attended Woofstock, an animal adoption event/concert at the University of Puget Sound. In fact, we rode our bikes to the event.

We strolled past the many cages on the field and saw a lot of great dogs.ย Below all the small, cute puppies, I spotted a dog with strikingly bright, blue eyes. I walked around the cage a few times and looked at her, a Border Collie. Despite all the chaos and noise and yelping at the event, she was totally calm.

Still, there were plenty of cages and booths to see, and we had rode our bikes to the event. We were not picking up a dog. We had Seafair plans and a party in West Seattle that night. Too much going on.

We looked at some other great-looking dogs, but I was compelled to come back to the blue-eyed dog. This time, the rep from the Wenatchee Humane Society asked if I wanted to walk her, take her for a test drive. As we walked away from the tent, the dog was totally attentive, which was surprising considering all the distractions that hardly allowed Amanda and I to hold a conversation. We stopped at a clean patch of grass and the dog immediately dug her snout into my chest and stayed there, saying "Love me!" Then she rolled over on her back and Amanda and I accepted the invitation to give her a solid belly rub. It was probably her first in awhile, at least since she'd made the trip from Eastern Washington, and perhaps the first since she arrived at the shelter a few weeks earlier.

Needless to say, we fell for the dog pretty hard right then and were taken aback by how affectionate she was. We walked her back to the tent and tried taking out another dog, just to see if we'd get the same response. We didn't. The other dog, a white Aussie Shepard, paid no attention to us as we walked her and could care less that we were there. Maybe he needed to be fixed. He wasn't fixed on us.

So we took the blue-eyed Border Collie back out for another round, and I knew then that we'd be adopting her. Amanda teared up a little after learning that she just turned 6 years old in July. The idea of adopting an older dog is just a little sad sometimes, but she had such a great personality and temperment, we were stoked that she was available at all. I signed papers for her, spent a ridiculously low $150 and walked away with "Sky," her shelter name, which we demoted for a middle name. We renamed her Gianna, which was something that just popped into my head at the time. I later found the meaning to be "God is gracious," and that seemed appropriate.

Now, you recall that Amanda and I rode bikes to the event. This was the point in time when that came around to bite us in the ass. For as good as Gianna was on the leash, I walked the longest eight blocks of my life trying to keep the dog going the right direction with my left hand while balancing the bike as I walked with my right. So awkward, kind of funny. We finally arrived at home and let Gianna roam. We also shortly thereafter had that "Oh crap" moment when we realized that we didn't have any basic gear for a dog. After another $150 on toys, food, a bed and other necessities at TJ Maxx, Petsmart and Mud Bay, we were in decent shape.

We learned two important qualities about Gianna that first day: First, she is insane about tennis balls. She has to have one, or she's looking for one. I took her off leash at the local elementary that first afternoon and she played fetch well, sprinting like a mad woman after each ball and obediently dropping the ball at my feet upon return. It was fun; I just didn't realize that we'd have to make this event a 2-3x daily thing. Second, the dog has hops. We attended the party in West Seattle that night, and we "thought" we enclosed her in the kitchen by placing our marble butcher table, 4 feet tall and 3 feet deep, as a blockade between the kitchen and the rest of the house. We got home that night and Gianna was on the other side of the table. Either she had played David Copperfield or she has some springs in those legs.

One of my favorite parts of adopting Gianna was surprising her on Sergio. He had a busy weekend, shooting three weddings or three consecutive days. He knew we were considering getting a dog, but he obviously didn't know he'd come home to one.ย When he arrived late Sunday night, he was totally shocked to find his new roommate waiting for him when unloaded his gear in the kitchen. Speaking of roommates, there's one more that has probably had the roughest transition to Gianna's homecoming, and he deserves his own words on the topic.

The New Schedule Physical Challenge

Remember those old Double Dare physical challenges? First off, why did they call them "physical challenges"? I always thought it was obvious that the challenge would be physical. Nickelodeon wasn't all that great with branding games.

My new work schedule has become a physical challenge especially considering we're a one-car household. Amanda wins the coin toss for the keys with her commute to Seattle.

I have two ways to get to work now -- by walking 20 minutes or by busing 5 minutes. Before continuing, let's all close our eyes and take a deep breath. On the exhale, think about how happy Paolo is about these options compared to the previous 90 minute commute. Isn't that nice? Like yoga for the mind.

Neither option is all that bad, but the bus will become more preferable as the weather turns in a couple months. The real challenge is the timing. The buses come every 20 minutes, so if I just miss one -- and I have already -- I'm torn between waiting for the next boss or getting to walking and being home in the same amount of time. With the new dress code, shoes have definitely come into play, and while I think my dress shoes are comfortable for the office, they haven't passed the 4-mile roundtrip walking test.

I've also opted to adjust my work hours slightly. I'm still getting up with Amanda at 5:45 a.m., and I twiddled my thumbs the first couple days waiting for 8:10 a.m. to arrive so that I could get to work by 8:30 a.m. Now I'm leaving more like 7:40 to get to work by 8 a.m. so that I can leave work by 4:30 and get home just before 5 p.m. To that point, being in my own home by 5 p.m. on a weekday is like living in an alternate reality. Still getting used to that and what to do with my time. Speaking of, I have a bus to catch.

Now, enjoy the genius that is all-star TV host Marc Summers tossing these kids around the obstacle course. So much humor, so much liability.

The Great Surprise Oregon Weekend

I have such mad game that I surprise myself sometimes. Awhile back, I made plans for a secret trip to Portland and the Oregon coast that I'd spring on Amanda. I arranged with her employers to get a Friday off without her knowing. To get her to pack for the trip, I first let her know that we'd be going camping for the weekend on a Thursday night.

The real surprise, of course, was that she wasn't going to work at all on Friday. We got ready for work like usual, but instead of driving north on I-5, I went south. Amanda was totally shocked. I'd share the video of her realizing the trip, but Amanda didn't have make-up on at that time in the morning, so she'd kill me if I shared it here. I'm learning this husband business afterall.

We had an amazing weekend and the weather mostly cooperated. Here's the pictorial.

Hooray! We're in Portland (Friday morning). IMG_3704

Breakfast at Mother's Bistro. IMG_3710

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Next, we went to the Rose Garden. We used Google Maps to get there, which took us to where the Trailblazers play. We eventually figured it out. IMG_3740

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A woman who looked JUST like the star of "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" (Amanda swears it was her) flagged us over to take a picture of this dragonfly. The dragonfly remained still. The woman disappeared. IMG_3754

Next up, the Japanese Garden. IMG_3767

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Paying my respect to the Timbers. IMG_3788

We bought a couple books at Powell's, or approximately 0.00000000000000000000000000000000001 of its inventory. IMG_3796

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We spent most of the evening at McMenamin's Kennedy School -- an old elementary schoolhouse converted into a swanky hotel, complete with bars, movie theater, restaurants and a saltwater bathing pool. Sorry there aren't more pictures. We were only there in the evening and were half-naked most of the time. It's OK. We're married. IMG_3808

On Saturday morning, we went to the infamous Voodoo Donuts. This was the line around the corner. IMG_3813

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We turned the corner and went to the Portland Saturday Market. IMG_3834

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Per Moos' advice, we made a lunch stop at Por que no? Muy bueno! IMG_3842

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We walked around the Mississippi neighborhood and Amanda enjoyed a hippie nursery where chickens roamed freely. IMG_3868

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After the stroll, we hopped in the car for a few-hour drive to our campground at Nehalem Bay State Park. Here's the video from a very curvy Highway 53.

We almost didn't go because of the weather. The forecast called for a 70 percent chance of rain. We made a stop at Home Depot on the way, grabbed some tents and went for it. I'm so glad we did. The beach was incredible! IMG_3874

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Like I said, tarp and tent. I felt like I was a little kid building a fort. IMG_3891

And more beach time.

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This is the time where I call out Amanda for always being too rough with pulling up her jeans, to the point of ripping the tag. IMG_3928

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On Sunday morning, we packed up and drove north to Cannon Beach. IMG_3950

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The weather didn't cooperate, but we made the most of it. IMG_3983

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Amanda realized that our route home went through Astoria, where Goonies was filmed. I think I've watch the movie twice and Amanda revealed that she has seen the movie 12x more than I have. Needless to say, we made a stop. IMG_4011

Here's the house where the first part of the movie takes place, including the Truffle Shuffle. IMG_4015

Finally, we made it back home and were welcomed by overcast skies. IMG_4017

Farewell, Commute

This is my last week working at Eddie Bauer in Bellevue, as I'm pumped to start social media marketing at MultiCare in Tacoma (253!) in August. I'm changing my buzz phrases from "social commerce" to "social good." Running social media from the ground up at a major retail brand seemed to be the ideal -- in most ways it was -- but it was also a serious commute. Another long commute.

My first long commute was in high school. I had finished junior high at my parochial school in grade 8. However, the local Federal Way schools, where we lived, were three year high schools. In the interest of the fewest transitions, I took on more bus transfers and commuted from Federal Way to Stadium High School in Tacoma. I never had a regret. I caught a ride with Dad out in the morning and bussed it 90 minutes home.ย Many high schools were closer, but I took the three buses and crossed county lines every day to go to Stadium. Scott had a similar commute and took the bus, though always earlier, so at least I had a teammate in travel. When I started cooking at the restaurant Wednesday thru Friday nights, I was gone 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. with soccer practice in between in the spring. I grew my work ethic and an early tolerance for commuting.

To boot, I took rotations and drove Sergio to Mountlake Terrace for soccer practice and Nina to South Hill Puyallup for dance class. I put in the mileage when I got my license.

Through college and after, I never had a commute like that again. However, when I began considering the offer to work at Eddie Bauer, to commute from Tacoma to Bellevue, it didn't make for an easy decision and didn't make for an easy transition. At first it was fun, even those days of standing on the bus across Lake Washington, but the scenery grew old and the repetitive cycle of travel lost its luster. Being the good wife, Amanda made a change and took work north in Seattle. We have worked on opposite sides of the lake, but at least I had a teammate in travel again. We drove 90 minutes each way and had an adventure from time to time to pass the time, and of course there was #snOMG.

Even with the wife's company and the "commution solution" dialed, I couldn't help but feel like we were missing out on an easier lifestyle. To demonstrate my perspective, here's the Parable of the Mexican Fisherman that I first read in The 4-Hour Workweek (Recommended!).

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long," answered the Mexican.

"But then, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" asked theย American.

The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The American asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs ... I have a full life."

The American interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard and I can helpย you!ย  You should start by fishing longer every day.ย  You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat.

"And after that?" asked the Mexican.

With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a secondย one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City, Los Angeles, or even New York City! From there you can direct your huge new enterprise."

"How long would that take?" asked the Mexican.

"Twenty, perhaps 25 years," replied the American.

"And after that?" the Mexican asked.

"Afterwards? That's when it gets really interesting," answered the American, laughing. "When your business gets really big, you can start selling stocks and make millions!"

"Millions? Really? And after that?"

"After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends."

 

Most people work for a lifetime to give themselves time and options in the future, often late in life. I've made the decision and have the opportunity to make that time for myself now, simply by continuing to do what I enjoy and know best, what I got my master's for, and closer to home. Easy as that. I made a big bet to buy a house in Tacoma a few years back, and the value of that decision just grows with this change.

I wouldn't trade what I've been able to do at Eddie Bauer over the past year, including many great trips (Alta/Jackson, Squaw Valley, Vail) and frequent successes in growing the brand primarily on Facebook. I will miss my colleagues and the good ladies of marketing who are equal parts, productivity, humor and entertainment.ย I was proud to be affiliated with a well-known brand and, being far too vain, I have enjoyed the perks of affiliation, especially by acquaintance.ย You get a lot of acquaintances, names and avatars, in my line of work. However, I think I'd rather measure life by the time I spend with those I love than the perceptions of those I know little of.

I like the idea of being home more and getting back those 15 hours a week that I commit to commuting -- not working, but commuting to and from the office. I like the idea of not having to choose between working out and dinner, blogging or breakfast. I like the idea of having time for getting a dog if I want one, which I do, or someday being a not-always-working dad, and just 5 minutes away from home or school.

I will miss parts of the commute, the bus culture and the views of the cities.

I will miss most those one-on-one, long talks in the car with my wife, the only person in the world who could tolerate/understand that the most significant time I've shared my love for her on this blog to date is buried at the bottom of a post about commuting. I love you and will miss this era of our lives almost as much as I'm excited about the next.