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What congressmen should not do six weeks before elections: get caught having online sex with minors.

ABC News revealed last week that ex-Rep. Mark Foley, R-Fla., sent lewd e-mails to underage male congressional assistants. Since the story broke, Foley quit his office the House, entered a rehab program, admitted he is gay and claims he was sexually abused by a clergyman as a teenager. That's a hell of a week.

Yesterday, The Washington Post obtained dozens of America Online instant messages from December 2002 to October 2003. Many included sexual references, like this one:

Foley to Page: "I wish i would have jumped you after dinner in san diego, but I was good."

According to the Washington Post article, in one particular instance, "Foley and the teenager engaged in graphic Internet sex, with the boy apparently masturbating as time was running out on a vote the lawmaker had to cast on the House floor."

Today, ABC News revealed that three more pages, classes of 1998, 2000 and 2002, now accuse Foley of online sexual approaches -- creating a greater timeline of pedophiliac behavior by the disgraced congressman.

What has ended Foley's political career (at the very least) should ignite the Democrat's mission to win some House seats and exploit corruption in the GOP. Certainly, the source of the ABC story timed exposing Foley to maximize political impact.

Foley's name remains on the ballot in Florida's 16th Congressional District, which means Democrats now only need 13 seats to capture the House. As George Will, says in his editorial, "If, after the Foley episode -- a maraschino cherry atop the Democrats' delectable sundae of Republican miseries -- the Democrats cannot gain 13 seats, they should go into another line of work."

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The recent changes at Facebook, an online (formerly) student social network, are, in a word, disturbing.

According to Reuters, Facebook, the No. 2 U.S. social network (right behind MySpace), received an online petition from 500,000 members of its 9.5 million membership last month asking that the recently introduced "News Feed" feature be removed. The "News Feed" basically lets users know what other users in their network are doing on their Facebook accounts, in real time.

The petition states, "News Feed is just too creepy, too stalker-esque, and a feature that has to go."

Facebook mastermind Mark Zuckerburg, who created Facebook in 2004 while attending Harvard, responded, "We agree, stalking isn't cool; but being able to know what's going on in your friends' lives is." Great. Now stalkers can call their victims "friends."

Let's try an example. Just by looking at Kenna's page (above), I not only learn that Kenna added photos to her account, but I know how many she posted and the day and time she posted them. I know when she's communicated to her other friends. I also learn that Kenna is dating someone new and, by looking at the photo, see that the guy looks strangely like -- me. (It's NOT me, for the record.)

I hardly use Facebook at all anymore because I'm so turned off by these creepy features. I did join a new group though. It's called "Facebook... aka STALKERbook." The description of this group reads, "If this new 'news feed' has you feeling like every friend (or lack there of) can watch your Facebook-moves, and it fucking creeps you out, then we all have something in common." Count me in.

Facebook originally had some feeling of privacy, primarily because only people with college email addresses could register for accounts or access member pages. Some months ago, Facebook began allowing high schoolers, non-profits and military organizations to register for accounts. Now, anyone can ask to be "one of your friends" as Facebook has opened itself up to the general public -- making the "News Feed" feature that much more concerning, and giving reason to drop the "STALKERbook" membership.

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Last night, in between watching reality TV shows, I edited one of Scott's MBA papers. I didn't edit his last paper. As a result, here's the feedback he received from his professor:

So, this time, Scott decided it was a good idea to let me look over his paper.

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My friend Anna, a talented journalist at The Bend Bulletin, emailed me a link to a couple opinion columns at Forbes.com about "Careers and Marriage." She knows I have enough time on my hands to address this topic.

In his opinion, Michael Noer says, "Guys: a word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don't marry a woman with a career... Recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat and less likely to have children. And if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it."

Noer and counterpoint author Elizabeth Corcoran address how Americans, both men and women, are trying to comprehend of the effects of women working outside the home. Most families can't live off single incomes these days, so women are off to work.

Two realities exist that neither author recognizes. First, because dual-incomes are required for most families, career women are necessarily becoming the norm. While we can discuss how women's careers affect their family lives, women cannot suddenly stop working, so, with a diminshing option to marry non-career women, this discussion is basically pointless. Debate is fruitless without alternative solutions!

Secondly, both authors address the discussion as if women have never worked. Women are working no harder in their careers than they have in past decades at home. One can even argue that women work more at home taking care of 24-7 domestic responsibilities, and there's no time card or overtime pay at home.

So does this suggestion that career women are bad wives warrant any truth? Not really. If a woman doesn't want to have children because she want to focus on her career or other motives, then that is something to figure out while dating. Know who you're marrying, guys. And women who do not want to be stay-at-home moms do not necessarily make bad wives. Some men do not want children either and that doesn't make them bad husbands.

So far as maintaining a happy marriage, even Doer acknowledges, "Many factors contribute to a stable marriage, including the marital status of your spouse's parents (folks with divorced parents are significantly more likely to get divorced themselves), age at first marriage, race, religious beliefs and socio-economic status."

More and more women are getting educated and entering the workforce, and divorce rates are increasing, but these two trends act independently. Women are entering the workforce because (a) they can, (b) they want to/ need to make money, and (c) for personal fulfillment. I believe the digustingly high divorce rate is a product of a substantially shallow, materialistic and self-centered culture that rarely recognizes the value of commitment. Women don't have to be in careers to encounter temptations. If anything, a career can fill a personal void that women could have staying at home, which would cause them to become unhappy. If a marriage is to fail, it will inevitably happen whether or not the wife is a "career woman." Hopefully, the commitment to marriage can transcend a professional career anyway.