Dear Matteo, 14 Months Old

Welcome back from Italy. 

We spent the better part of the last two days traveling back home from Puglia through Naples and Frankfurt. Way to stack up those passport stamps my little man!

You were quite the hit as we traveled across southern Italy. I think it was the hair that became bleached by Mediterranean sun. You attracted many older women to pinch your cheeks and say "bimbo!" and "bello!" A lot of people confused you and Eliza as "gemelli" (twins) when you sat in the double stroller. You're not quite as tall as her, but you're catching up enough to fool people that you're the same age. I assume our diet of carbs -- pizza and gelato in heavy rotation -- helped accelerate your growth spurt as it did mine at the waistband. 

Maybe it was the amount of time we got to spend together but I noticed some other big changes during trip. You continue to try out new words and emulate anything your sister does. A good influence is how you like books, especially the "Llama Llama" series. You crawl the books over to make a "read to me now" request. You are already trying to play soccer, perching up on a step and kicking wildly at the ball when it's at your dangling feet. You are brave with your climbing and wanting to sit on chairs and couches like a big kid. Unfortunately, that Italian tile is not very forgiving, and you got some bumps where your balance didn't match your ambition. 

You are so close to walking. You took a couple "trust fall" steps toward me this past week, but I can't count those as true first steps until you can make a connected, balanced stretch. 

All of that activity didn't make for a restful vacation for your Mom and I as we always had to be on watch. Sometimes we'd slow you down or remove you from a potential fall and you would react with a flare of anger -- hit, flail backward, or pull hair. I shaved my growing, impressive beard down in part because I was tired of you tugging on it in retribution. Also, I was looking scraggly and I need to look nice for your Mom. 

At times you had good reason to be grumpy. We took the long way getting to Italy due to flight delays. Our original itinerary of Seattle --> Frankfurt --> Naples expanded to Seattle --> Frankfurt --> Munich --> Bari --> Naples. That last leg from Bari to Naples was an unexpected three hour bus ride as thunderstorms kept us from landing in Naples. We were all exhausted and unhappy. We ran out of diapers and food. By the time we arrived in Naples, we surrendered to an airport hotel instead of continuing on to our apartment in Sorrento. It was a bumpy way to start the "vacation."

Of course, it was never meant to be a vacation. Traveling with kids as young as you and Eliza is more of an adventure in not knowing how you will adjust to your constantly new surroundings while not knowing exactly what's around the corner as your inexperienced guides. Add a splash of language barrier, and the combination makes for a cocktail of accomplishment, surprise and occasional frustration. We drank that up all trip.  

You also drank some sea water and ate a lot of sand. It happens. Better from the Adriatic and Mediterranean seas than Puget Sound.

Love, Dad

Dear Eliza, 34 Months Old

Your artistry is coming to life. You've been spending more time wanting to color, dance, play instruments and sing.

Your favorite subject is mountains. You draw and color them and ask me to do the same. You like to build mountain installations out of pillows in the living room, always finishing the pillow pile with a white blanket on top to represent snow. You cannon-ball-jump into the pile always in the direction of Matteo for some collateral damage potential. 

But with that, you're also starting to understand the life of a struggling artist and the need to find work.

You started asking a couple weeks ago for a "Moana microphone." Your Mom and I realized this would be a good time to introduce the idea of chores and allowance so you can save up to buy the microphone. It's a little early for the financial concept, but you immediately tracked with it. If you help pick up toys each evening, we give you a dollar to put in your blue piggy bank. It's an excellent starting wage as your employers know cost of living in the Pacific Northwest is exploding. You get to put those earned dollars in your blue piggy bank and when you have enough money, you get to give us the money in exchange for the microphone. Your Mom and I are getting a little more help out of you as a result. You've nearly saved up the $10 with eyes on the prize. Win-win.   

You're not entirely forced to earn your own way yet. I just bought new strings for your Silver Surfer guitar and a flowery guitar strap so you can finally play guitar while standing and singing at your current microphone -- a 3-foot garden mister. You're singing a lot of songs but your favorite is "Shake It Off" by Taylor Swift. She's definitely your favorite musician to emulate, and you've grown confidence in your dance moves after watching her music videos.

Another more lucrative profession is also emerging: dentistry. You were never one of those kids that we had to push to brush teeth. You love brushing your teeth. You ask to brush your teeth. You insist on brushing your teeth every time you use the potty and wash your hands. We actually had to take the toothpaste away because you were going through a tube a week. We have yet to introduce flossing, so that will be the real test of your dental commitment. I'm loving the trend though. A good outcome is that you have a life of healthy teeth and avoid the crowns your Mom and I had to get this past year. A best outcome is that plus you get into some sort of dental career to help people who need the healthcare, and you'll surely have a steady income. Go big and become a dentist to take care of your old man, OK?

Your Mom also wanted me to add that your language is getting really complete with some cute mispronunciations, including "baffroom," "everybubby" and calling Matteo "bubs". You have also picked up your Mom's classic question, "Isn't that funny?" It's always funny.  

Love, Dad

Dear Matteo, 13 Months Old

Hooray! You finally got your helmet off!

It's been a trial the last couple months with how hot the summer has been and how little the helmet breathes being made of foam and hard plastic. The "vent" at the top wasn't doing much. As a result, your Mom and I were getting lax with keeping the helmet on. When you're going in and out of our kiddie pool and sweating otherwise, the helmet was sometimes wet and always stinky. So was your head. Eww.

The people at the helmet doctor (I forgot what their titles are) said the helmet improved your head shape well enough. You can have your future barber thank Mom and me when he's working on your fade. 

As I've mentioned before, it's a huge difference to see you with the helmet off. We can see your entire face and expressions. We also get to see your super blonde, thick hair. You are such a handsome little guy. 

In addition to seeing more of you, we're hearing more of you. You are chip off the old block and therefore a total motormouth. You constantly point at the world around you and baby talk. You're in constant conversation with yourself. You've also started to try and play with Eliza. You crawl after her while she shrieks to entice, and you two roughhouse on the "mountains" (stacks of couch pillows) she builds. Occasionally I have to save one of you from a twisted knee under a body or lack of oxygen under a pillow, but it's all in good fun. 

What was not fun was having to perform a Heimlich maneuver on you the other day when you choked on a cucumber. Your Mom has been a fan of "baby-led weaning," but you sure do like to play chubby bunny with food and cram as much in your mouth as you can and swallow without chewing much. Fortunately I was right there, recognized your surprise and struggle, yanked you out of the high chair, turned you around and popped you hard (sorry) in the back to shoot that cucumber son-of-a-bitch out of your airway.

Let's not do that again. Life is fragile. So are cucumbers. Chew them more. 

Love always, Dad

Dear Eliza, 33 Months Old

People say you only have 18 summers with your kids. Well, summer #2 with you is off to a great start, and I have no regrets. Take that, phrases meant to make you question how you parent!

You've spent a good number of days with your toes in the sand. Not because there is a beach anywhere near us but because your Mom built a sandbox using some extra lumber. Very Indiana of her to do. Of course, the sand is now all over our patio, and I just gave Matteo a bath to wash the sand off his body and out of his mouth.

We've gone to a couple Rainiers baseball games this summer, which have been a real treat for all of us. The ballpark is fairly relaxed, and there's room for you to run around the seat sections and common areas. We're often on the hunt for the team mascot, a moose named Rhubarb. You want to track him all night like a hunter but won't let me pull the trigger to shoot a photo of you with him. Too risky. You like to ask for a Popsicle treat, which I am inclined to buy because the beer isn't cheaper for me. 

We went to the first game with the Chaffees. You were so excited to see the twins. You cornered Bridger at that ballgame and made him hold your hand. You've recently decided that you're married to both Bridger and Bennett. That's illegal here, but if that's the life you choose then pack your bags for Utah. The reverse gender ratio would be quite progressive there.

Your Grammie and Popa are in town for Matteo's first birthday, so we've moved you upstairs with us to sleep in what will be your new room after the bathroom addition is complete. It's been a good transition to get you comfortable up there. You only had one complaint that you were scared about a shark in the room. I can assure you sharks cannot make it to the second floor of a home on dry land, or your money back. You're sleeping on a mattress on the floor next to the queen bed your Mom and I occupy, which will be your big-kid bed. Queen bed, not a bad start! You do a fine job going to sleep before we do, but your Mom and I often wake up with you smashed in between us.

This is a big deal to have your own room again! I know it's been a little tough for all of us playing musical rooms around Matteo's sleep schedule. You'll have fun having your own space and we'll make it a special place for you to call your own. I can remember my childhood room at our family home in Renton with a bed that my Gramps made in the shape of a Ferrari. It's a first slice of independent living... until you make that move to Utah. 

I am looking forward to moving back downstairs here soon, and leaving you to your own room. One night you scared the piss out of me. I woke up to you standing in front of the bed, staring at me and  looking like that girl from The Ring with your hair in front of your face. You demand in a deep, red-rum, groggy voice, "Up in bed, up in bed."

I obliged to your possessed request. I'd like to make it to see summer #3.

Love, Dad

Dear Matteo, 12 Months Old

You are one year old already! I can't believe it.

We will celebrate you this Saturday with an American-themed birthday party, taking advantage of all the Fourth of July decor and fanfare. We're going to Make First Birthdays Great Again. The whole family has patriotic outfits to wear. You have a classic Obama "Hope" t-shirt that says "Miss you" (because we do miss Obama). Uncle Scott is bringing a bouncy house for the toddlers -- nothing more American than that. You're getting a smash cake from Corina Bakery. Have at it, kid.

Grammie and Popa are in town for a couple weeks to party with us and enjoy the cool Northwest summer. You are getting a lot of love from the grandparents. 

You've answered the call of this milestone birthday by accelerating your development. We've encouraged you to hold up a pointer finger to tell us how old you are and now you point at everything with excited, wheezing-like breaths. Your Mom taught you to "blow out your candle" so now you can blow whistles and bubbles. When Eliza blows bubbles in her water cup with a straw, you cackle with excitement and belly laugh. You haven't nailed words or sign language yet but have your own set of sounds like "Grrr" for Greta and use various baby talk to have conversations with us. You like to throw balls and chase after them around the house. You started cruising along the couch and constantly stand wherever you can. When you crawl, it's fast like a spider and we have to jog to keep up with you. You love water whether it's in a pool or dog bowl (gross). Just yesterday you showed us how you can "cheers" and clink your sippy cup to our wine glasses. Salute.

Last week we visited with our friends Jama'l and Lindsey, who are expecting a baby boy in the fall. Jama'l talked to me about the "head trip" of raising a son -- the idea of guiding a young man who may have a similar life experience, or not. You and I are are going to need to make a pact: I'll show you how to navigate the path ahead as I know it; you decide how much of that path is right for you. I'll be tempted to keep you on course, and you'll be tempted to stray from it. That's the natural parent-child dynamic of me wanting to nurture your success and you wanting to find success your own way. We can't avoid that dynamic, but we can recognize it and respect each other trying to get to the same outcome -- the same your Mom and I pray for -- that you'll be happy, smart and healthy. Everything after that is frosting on the smash cake. 

I love you so much, son. 

Love always, Dad