Dear Eliza, 28 Months Old

We are in full potty training mode. I never thought I would talk so much about #1 and #2 in my life. Most of our family conversations revolve about this topic. I don't know why, but a lot of these questions come around mealtime: Are you still dry? Do you need to use the potty? When was the last time you used the potty? Do you need to use the potty again? 

Potty, potty, potty. 

It's working though. You are going days without an accident and almost exclusively wear pull-ups. We have tried "big kid underwear" a few times with mixed results. The first time you went #2 in the potty we made a huge deal out of it. We will probably be less excited when you graduate from college, get married, or have your own child. The celebration was at level 11. We have been incentivizing you successfully with mini M&Ms after a good deed, but for the #2 we took you to Safeway to get a balloon as you requested. I'll never forget the look on the young man assisting us as he held the baby blue balloon and had to bear witness and stand in frame for a full on-camera interview about why you were getting the balloon from him. He was like "WTF." We were like "#2 FTW!" 

YOU WERE STOKED. So were your Mom and I. We have been dirty diaper factory workers these past months between the production of you and your brother. The union wants to reduce their hours.

You continue to entertain me with all of your mannerisms. You baby-talk to Matteo the way that Mom and I do. Your voice is already so tiny it's baby-baby talk. When I come home from work you give me a big hug and small-chat with me, asking how my day was and explaining yours. It's so darn cute. On the other end, you're incredibly demanding for any bedtime routine. You ask to be covered up. You ask for chocolate milk. You ask to turn on your blue light. When I say "ask," I mean you scream these demands at us from your room. Such a little dictator. 

The last couple weeks we have gone to the indoor swimming pool at People's Park. You are a strong, confident swimmer (with a lifejacket). I honestly love it because you're really inclined to hang on me in the water. 

I continue to take in all of these events -- the celebratory potty, the after-work small-talk, the swim dates -- and enjoy them in the moment. It's easy to be distracted or apathetic out of exhaustion, but I only need to look at Matteo to see how fast your little life has moved along. It's sometimes challenging to stay present and attentive while making sure not to miss or set-up the next one around the corner. You keep us on our toes, kiddo.

Love always, Dad

Dear Matteo, 7 Months Old

You are becoming a little foodie!

You've got both bottom-center teeth now and are putting them to work -- including occasionally biting your Mom while nursing. Not cool. 

We are getting you started on simple foods and baby foods. You like to suck on carrots and cucumbers. I'm sure the cold veggies help your sore gums. You sometimes eat avocados through a mesh spoon. It's a little weird but it works. Today we tried a berries-and-oats puree, but you broke out in light hives. You've been getting some light rashes after eating soft foods, so you conclusively have some food sensitivities or allergies like your cousin Harry. Although the light skin breakouts occur, it doesn't stop your enthusiasm for trying foods. Each time you see the baby spoon come out you reach out intensely and try and grab the spoon to expedite the food travel. It's a cute little behavior.

You are getting more sturdy and can sit up on your own for minutes at a time (eventually falling to a side). You seem awfully proud of yourself when you're upright. You are also practicing standing with some help and in your play saucer. Typically you are most happy at these tasks when you are at least shirtless, if not only wearing a diaper. I guess someone has to be the nudist in the family. 

We are keeping an eye on the flat spot on the back of your head, and Mom has you in physical therapy at Mary Bridge Children's Hospital once a week to help with your neck strength. You may have favored turning your head to the left side too much these past months, or even in utero, so you sort of have a stiff neck. I'm sure the exercises will help, and we won't hesitate to get you a corrective helmet if that means it helps round out your head shape. We should have a better idea about all that over the next couple of months. 

Through all of these growth milestones you have had one big smile on your face. In contrast, I look back at your sister at this age and realize she was quite stoic. If you're not sleeping or eating, you're grinning. Strangers light up when they see you because you're always smiling at them first. It makes everyone's day, especially mine! There's a cliche aspect of masculinity not to smile to appear tough. Personally, I think that's horseshit. A smiley approach has paid off for me way more often than acting tough. You're off to a great start, little homey. 

Love always, Dad

Dear Eliza, 27 Months Old

I used to have a lot of time to write these letters at night, but now you like to stay up as late as I do so I'm cramming this one. 

I'm surprised you didn't want to go to sleep earlier considering how much you jumped around all evening. We had pillows thrown across the floor in the living room as poor safety precautions while you practiced jumping off the couch onto your feet. You typically like to jump and land on your butt on whatever bed or cushion you're on, so it's good practice to save your tailbone. We went swimming at the YMCA last weekend and I had to save you from multiple jumps where you would have cracked the back of your head because you didn't jump out far enough. This is one instance where it's better to practice jumping on land to get better at sea.

You've had quite the athletic development overall this past month. Just today you surprised me when you tossed a ball to yourself in the air and caught it. You continue to be a good runner and now you can gallop at stride. You also learned this past week how to push yourself on a scooter and practically look like you're skateboarding. Remind me later to tell you who Tony Hawk was and the fantastic video game made in his likeness. You also continue to help my exercise and lay on my back when I do push-ups. We made it to 40 this month. 

Your Mom and I are constantly impressed with how smart you are. You can almost consistently, flawlessly count to 20. You can spell your name and your Mom taught you with the same jingle as B-I-N-G-O. Your articulation is more clear and you started using articles (a, the) in your sentences. You express more tone and nuance in your expressions and communications. You love to color and draw and are cranking out modern art daily. 

What's not improving, as I alluded earlier, is your sleep cycle. You want to go to bed later and complain for near an hour from your crib. It doesn't help that Matteo is sleeping in the room with you now until we get the new bathroom finished and get your bedroom set up. We need the baby to sleep! You tend to make high maintenance requests when you complain, asking for hot chocolate or a specific snack or water or back rubs or to get covered up by the blanket you just kicked off or to "sleep in Mommy's bed." Sometimes you ask for all of them in a ritualistic order to get the pleasure of watching us march back and forth. 

In the words of a great American poet, "please go the f*ck to sleep."

Oh, and then when you wake up in the morning you make the same series of requests. Despite all that, I'm still happy to see you in the morning. Until then...

Love, Dad

Dear Matteo, Six Months Old

Happy New Year, little man. 2017 was a tough year for a lot of people who validly cite Donald Trump's presidency, natural disasters, and acts of violence among the reasons. Fortunately we were unaffected by a lot of the negatives, and your arrival into the world simply outshined anything else. I'll look back at 2017 as a great year with wonderful memories of you. 

Of course, I get to share a lot of these memories as they happen. You spent your first Christmas between Indiana and Washington. A couple of weeks after our Hawaii trip we loaded you and your sister back on a plane to visit with your Mom's side of the family. You were pure entertainment. Everyone just loved how smiley you are and how much you bounce around. We left Indiana on Christmas Eve, and had a long travel day, dodging incoming snow storms at Fort Wayne and our connection in Chicago. You were a total champ on the plane, even when we sat on the tarmac for two hours in Chicago waiting on plane fixes and weather delays. 

We woke up to a white Christmas, which is rare in Washington and totally magical. We showed you and your sister how Santa ate some cookies and reindeer ate carrots. I am still working on the narrative for how Santa came through the electric fireplace. You opened a couple presents and then we went on a stroll around the snowy neighborhood in Eliza's new wagon. It was a relaxed, perfect day. 

At six months old, you are developing in all the fun ways that entertain the hell out of me. You roll over whenever you can. You have a way of really swinging your chunky legs to roll quickly. Back and forth, back and forth. We have to line up pillows so you don't go the wrong direction and bump your head. You can't quite sit up on your own, but you want to and complain when you're on your back for too long. That may also be your way of saying, "Help my flat head get round and get my ass upright," because the back of your head is a little flat. We're working on that and are trying to avoid a corrective helmet in your immediate future. We'll see what the doctor says at your next check-up. 

You don't have teeth yet but you're trying to break them in. You're like a little cannibal because whenever you see hands, especially knuckles, you lunge forward to devour them and gnaw your teeth wildly. It's really funny to watch. I'd say something about a knuckle sandwich but that's an obvious dad joke. You're interested in trying food, grasping at any food we put in front of you -- most often our own when we try and eat with you on lap. We've let you suck on a few bland vegetables because your Mom says we shouldn't get you hooked on sweets. So for now it's been green beans and cucumbers. You act like you've never eaten before, which I guess is technically true. Just wait until you get to taste the really good stuff. 

Finally, you're a thumb sucker. It's the best. I know thumb sucking can become a problem later, but for now it's so darn cute. You get a pass for the next six months on that one. 

Love, Dad

Dear Eliza, 26 Months Old

We came back from your second Hawaiian vacation (lucky duck!) a few days ago. We made the brilliant decision to fly in and out of Bellingham instead of Seattle. Or, it was brilliant departing that way.

We stayed at your Aunt Nina and Uncle Jeff's house the night before in Bellingham, so we had a nice visit with them before an easy drive to the airport in the morning. Coming back, we didn't arrive until 11:30 p.m. Factor in the two-hour drive home and that made for a late night!

How did you kids do on the flights? Well, Matteo is at an easy age. You, not so much, but you did great. You sat in your car seat on the plane, which I think made you a lot more comfortable. I rented a couple movies so you got to watch two movies each way, plus some "Elmo's World" episodes. We basically zombied you with screen time, and that worked for everyone involved.

One of my favorite moments from the trip was watching you "swim" with a lifejacket. We stayed at a first-floor condo with a lanai (Hawaiian for "small porch") that walked right out to a shared community pool. You were awfully brave the first day we were there, wanting to constantly jump into the pool, making our hearts jump a little. We didn't bring any flotation devices (parent fail) so went straight to a dive shop to get a lifejacket for you. Once we got you in that, you were golden! You never got the idea of how to use your arms so you would basically flutter your feet to stay balanced and direct your drifting. You had a big cheesy smile enjoying your swimming freedom that we reflected back. 

Your language continues to improve, and you picked up more words than I did Hawaiian slang. This has been the month of using pronouns and possessive pronouns. The English language is tough in this way. If we each have a cup in front of us, I have mine and you have yours, but you would say yours is "mine." Or you will just say "Eliza cup, Daddy cup." That works, too. You got the hang of "I," such as "I did it!" whenever you would successfully exit the swimming pool via steps. You were also quite emphatic if you thought Matteo took something that was yours, as in, "No Matteo. That's my..." We're working on that sharing concept. 

You'll soon enough have a command of English and I recommend you don't stop there. I have never been able to pick up a second language despite taking a lot of classes in high school and college. When we were in Italy, someone told us, "the baby learns its mother's tongue." That's another way of saying that you're going to pick up what you most often hear: English. Your Mom and I will need to think about getting you in some second language environments quickly. I don't have a preference for what the language is, could be Mandarin, but I want to make sure you develop and exercise the cognitive muscle I don't have. Later in life, you'll have the chance to  study abroad. Do it. My biggest regret in college was not studying abroad. 

In the meantime, we'll keep dragging you kids to corners of the world for sprints at consuming foreign culture and language. And you'll watch a lot more movies on airplanes. 

Love, Dad